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Why it’s good that you are not a horse

There are various terms for conditions associated with a fear of being sick:

  • Emetaphobia : a phobia that causes overwhelming, intense anxiety pertaining to vomiting. This specific phobia can also include subcategories of what causes the anxiety, including a fear of vomiting in public, a fear of seeing vomit, a fear of watching the action of vomiting or fear of being nauseated
  • AFRID (Avoidant / Restrictive Food Intake Disorder)
  • SED (selective eating disorder)

The fear can be of being sick, or of feeling like you are going to be sick, or of choking, or of something else. It’s often connected to an early experience of sickness (either your own or someone else’s) which was so unexpected that it basically freaked out your subconscious.

After observing the sickness event, your subconscious becomes very jumpy.

“Oh my god! That was scary and awful and we need to make sure that NEVER happens again. I know, I will make sure you never eat anything that will cause that”

The problem is that your subconscious is being unneccessarily jumpy. You are not a horse.

Ok, that may seem like an obvious thing to say but it’s actually very relevant.

Horses can’t be sick.

The problem with not being sick is that if you have anything bad in your stomach, you have no way of getting rid of it.

That’s where the real problem lies.

Also, in a real twist of fate, one of the things that horses find difficult to process is fresh spring grass. Too much of it gives horses a condition called Colic.

Colic kills horses.

Because they can’t be sick.

So you see, it’s a really good thing that you are sick. It’s a really good thing that people can be sick. It’s a really good thing that we can choke.

These things mean your subconscious is doing it’s job really, really well.

It is stopping things getting stuck.

It is stopping things poisoning you by ejecting them from your stomach.

And if we can help your subconscious understand this, it can stop freaking out. And that means you can eat safely.

As a side note, when kids have selective eating of any sort, they are usually ready to change when they hit around 11 years old. This is the age they want to hang out with their friends, maybe in restaurants or go on trips away. This is when the eating thing becomes a problem to them, not just you, and this is when I can help them change. If they don’t want to change because they don’t see a problem, they won’t!

If you have anything like the problems I have described, or you know someone who has, give me a shout and let me help stop the subconsicous freaking out. Email dawn@thinkitchangeit.com

3 signs you are a fussy eater

I used to think I’d eat pretty much anything. I was deprived of food as a child so I tried to make up for it as an adult. Then I started travelling, and I realised that not liking seafood or mushrooms actually made me quite selective over what I could eat.

Thing is, I could push a prawn or mushroom to one side, and carry no eating the rest of the meal. It was no big deal. So I’m not really a fussy eater, it’s just that the things I don’t like happen to be in lots of dishes!

There is a ‘thing’ these days called Selective Eating Disorder – it’s what we might have called Fussy Eating in the past. So you are a probably a fussy eater if

1.You spent hours sat at the kitchen table as a child

Did you parents make you sit at the table until you finished everything on your plate? Were you always left at the table when everyone else had finished and left? The first sign┬áthat your subconscious has a problem with eating is your behaviour as a kid. Often clients I see say they have been told they were always fussy as a kid. Often the parents would really worry and, as well as talking to doctors, would try anything to get a child to eat a balanced meal. Of course, it didn’t work. And it made everybody miserable. You probably wasted hours of your childhood sat at a table staring at the food in front of you.

2. You avoid going out for meals and to events where there is food

The problem with not eating a range of foods is that it can be really hard to find a restaurant that meets your limited requirements. And most people don’t want to let on to their friends that they are fussy over what they eat. Events can be a particular nightmare because it’s not so easy to avoid them. I have had clients that would not even go for a coffee with friends because they didn’t want to explain why they wouldn’t eat anything.

3. You eat the same food all the time because it’s safe

You have a very limited range of foods that you eat. You never try anything new because you are worried about what will happen if you don’t like it.

‘Fussy Eating’ is a very real problem. It is a problem in your subconscious. In my experience it comes from either a fear of being sick, or a fear of gagging choking. When you think about different foods, or try different foods it triggers an alert point in your subconscious

Warning! Risk of gagging or being sick if you continue

To protect you from this perceived threat, your subconscious takes over and tries to prevent you putting yourself at risk. Ironically, to do this, it usually makes you gag or feel sick – the very thing it’s protecting you from!

This is not a conscious thing. But it’s also not true. If we look back through your memories to when this alert was established, we will usually find a childhood event that your subconscious totally misinterpreted. When we correct that misinterpretation, that alert is no longer activated around food and you begin to eat a wider range.

In my experience with my clients, this takes effect almost immediately, with clients often leaving a therapy session and eating different food for the first time in their lives.

Because of this, working with fussy eaters/people with SED is probably one of my favourite things to do as the change is more immediately life changing than my work with anyone else.

If you feel this describes you, why not drop an email to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com and let me help you.