When a cat sees a shiny thing it is instantly distracted. It will chase after the shiny thing and not notice anything else.
Starting today, the first day of a new year, I want you to try and see the shiny things in every day.
At the end of every day (especially the bad days) write down one good thing about the day and put it in a jar or a tin. They are there if you look for them.
At the end of the year, open the jar and read through all the things you have written.
It seems to be human nature to ignore the good stuff that has happened in the day in favour of the stuff you are not so happy with.
If you are trying to lose weight and get up and go to the gym in the morning and then in the afternoon you have some cake, you will almost definitely delete from your mind the fact you went to the gym and focus only on the fact that you had cake.
We delete the good stuff and focus on the stuff we are not happy with.
But you can change this. It is amazing how powerful it can be to your mental health and general wellbeing to reverse your behaviour and make sure that you focus on the good stuff that happens in your day. How?
At the end of every day write down 3 positive things that happened in your day
Let me explain why it’s important to write it down.
Have you ever been buying a new car and noticed that car everywhere? It’s not that there are more of that car on the roads it’s just that you have primed yourself to notice it.
Have you ever been trying for a baby and found that everyone in the world is pregnant or has a baby? It’s not true it’s just that you have primed yourself to notice it.
By writing your positives down at the end of the day you have to notice the good stuff that is always there and because you are writing them down you can’t delete them. Also, because your brain knows you need to write down 3 at the end of the day it will go looking for them. You are priming yourself to see the good stuff.
And it doesn’t have to be big things. It can be someone making you smile, noticing a bird singing in the morning. They are always there. The worse the day is the more effort you should make to write them down too. It can make the difference between a good and a bad day if you stick to it!