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Life – I’m taking you on

In the morning when I go for a run I put a mix on my ipod and just jog along enjoying the fresh air and the space to think.

I have my music on shuffle so I never know what will come up. 

The other day, as I headed out for a run after Christmas this song came on my iPod

I love the words to this song. 

And as I mused the other day, the timing of this song was perfect because this year I have not made resolutions, I have decided instead to focus on the moment. 

Instead of achieving anything specific I am going to focus instead on what I already have. 

As I listened to the words of the song, another video that a friend on Twitter shared with me came to mind. Over Christmas I got a Nike Fuelband. It tracks all motion in the day and turns it into Nike Fuel points. There was one line that stood out to me from this video

The line that summarises what I am trying to achieve this year comes from Abraham Lincoln (or maybe somebody else!)

It’s Not the Years in Your Life That Count. It’s the Life in Your Years

So that is my mantra for the year. And as I listened to the Christina Aguilera song and jogged along I realised that when she refers to “you” in the song I take that as “life”. 

I have chosen to take what has happened in my life and use it to make me stronger.

So this year I have stopped running.

This year I am stopping, standing still, having a good look around and resolving to enjoy every moment to the best of my ability. 

What does it mean?

No doubt a number of you have New Year’s Resolutions. 

No doubt a number of you will break your New Year’s Resolutions through the year at some point. 

Have you ever wondered why they are so hard to stick to? 

Have you ever questioned what it will mean if you achieve them. 

So ask yourself these questions

  1. What will you gain if you achieve X resolution? 
  2. What will you lose if you achieve X resolution?
  3. What will you not gain if you achieve X resolution?
  4. What will you not lose if you achieve X resolution?

Let me give you an example

“I want to lose weight this year”

1. I will gain self confidence. I will be able to wear clothes I like rather than ones that fit

2. I will lose the protection of my weight as an excuse for why I don’t like myself. 

3. I will not gain a sense of self worth. I will not gain a new job or a new life. I might not gain happiness. 

4. I will not lose my friends and family. I will not lose the stresses and strains of daily life. 

So look at what you are resolving to achieve this year and test it out with these 4 questions. It’s not too late to revise, replace or even scrap any resolutions that aren’t really going to help you achieve your true goals in life. 

It can mean whatever you want it to

There can be a lot of pressure on people as we approach the New Year. 

You start to reflect on achievements of the year gone by and make plans for the year ahead. 

This is where it can get tricky.

But it doesn’t have to.

It’s just another day. You can choose to make it mean whatever you want.

And ask yourself, who says you should have achieved X? Who set that particular goal?

Whether New Year is a big deal or not, why not try a different approach this year.

1. Write down everything you did in 2012 that you enjoyed doing

2. Write down everything you did in 2012 that you didn’t enjoy


  • Pick one thing from the list in number 1 that you will do more of.
  • Pick one thing from the list in number 2 that you will do less of

That’s it. 2013 New Years resolutions have now been written

It’s very simple just do more of what you love and less of what you don’t



New year, New life

This time last year I was in the middle of transforming myself. 

This year I am transformed. I am everything I could possibly hope to be and I am entering into 2013 full of excitement and anticipation for everything it might bring. 

The end of a year is often a time of contemplation and evaluation. It’s also a great opportunity to take hold of your life and choose to be whoever you most want to be. 

So I have a special Christmas offer for you that will run until the end of 2012. 

If you buy my book “Nothing Needs to be the Way it’s Always Been”  which is £5.49 on Amazon, then I will give you one 30 minute online life coaching session via Skype/Facetime which is worth £30.

Click here to read about my online therapy model

So what do you have to do?

1. Buy my book “Nothing Needs to be the Way it’s Always Been” from Amazon (You can get it by clicking on this link)

2. Email proof of purchase to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com

3. I will reply and arrange a convenient time/date for our online session

It’s that simple!

For me 2013 is about helping as many people as I possibly can. This is just the first step towards that for me.