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Who wants to be a millionaire

I play the National Lottery.

I don’t expect to win but I play it so that I can have the conversations “What would I do if I won…”.

Have you ever done that?

When you’ve gone through paying off debts, a house, a holiday etc do you carry on?

Have you ever thought what you would do day in day out for the next 20 years of your life when you won the lottery?

If money was not a concern but all other constraints that we live by still existed what would you be doing in your daily life?

That’s what I love to dream about. Because I know my plans for my future would be no different than they are right now – they would just be accelerated. I would be a full time Cognitive Hypnotherapist sooner rather than later. 

So take a moment to dream

  1. If you won enough on the lottery to give up work what do you want to be doing in 10 years time.
  2. Imagine your day from first thing in the morning to last thing at night.Where are you? who is around you? what are you doing?
  3. Now work back, what would you have to do to get there?
  4. Keep working back. Work out each thing that you would need to do to make that day in 10 years happen.
  5. Now work out why you can’t start taking action to that point now. Why can’t you start doing things right now that will get you to where you want to be in 10 years time. 

You might find that the thing that’s limiting you living your dream is not money at all, it’s just that you have never thought about it in a way where it was a real possibility.

 

Life – I’m taking you on

In the morning when I go for a run I put a mix on my ipod and just jog along enjoying the fresh air and the space to think.

I have my music on shuffle so I never know what will come up. 

The other day, as I headed out for a run after Christmas this song came on my iPod

I love the words to this song. 

And as I mused the other day, the timing of this song was perfect because this year I have not made resolutions, I have decided instead to focus on the moment. 

Instead of achieving anything specific I am going to focus instead on what I already have. 

As I listened to the words of the song, another video that a friend on Twitter shared with me came to mind. Over Christmas I got a Nike Fuelband. It tracks all motion in the day and turns it into Nike Fuel points. There was one line that stood out to me from this video

The line that summarises what I am trying to achieve this year comes from Abraham Lincoln (or maybe somebody else!)

It’s Not the Years in Your Life That Count. It’s the Life in Your Years

So that is my mantra for the year. And as I listened to the Christina Aguilera song and jogged along I realised that when she refers to “you” in the song I take that as “life”. 

I have chosen to take what has happened in my life and use it to make me stronger.

So this year I have stopped running.

This year I am stopping, standing still, having a good look around and resolving to enjoy every moment to the best of my ability. 

New year, New life

This time last year I was in the middle of transforming myself. 

This year I am transformed. I am everything I could possibly hope to be and I am entering into 2013 full of excitement and anticipation for everything it might bring. 

The end of a year is often a time of contemplation and evaluation. It’s also a great opportunity to take hold of your life and choose to be whoever you most want to be. 

So I have a special Christmas offer for you that will run until the end of 2012. 

If you buy my book “Nothing Needs to be the Way it’s Always Been”  which is £5.49 on Amazon, then I will give you one 30 minute online life coaching session via Skype/Facetime which is worth £30.

Click here to read about my online therapy model

So what do you have to do?

1. Buy my book “Nothing Needs to be the Way it’s Always Been” from Amazon (You can get it by clicking on this link)

2. Email proof of purchase to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com

3. I will reply and arrange a convenient time/date for our online session

It’s that simple!

For me 2013 is about helping as many people as I possibly can. This is just the first step towards that for me. 

Motivation

The more you do, the more you do

Motivation is a habit. 

You don’t suddenly wake up one day and find you are motivated. 

Somehow, the less you do, the less you want to do. There’s a saying isn’t there, that if you want something doing, give it to a busy man. 

Sometimes we can spend a lot of time wishing we had more time to do stuff. And yet somehow, if we ever find ourselves with the luxury of having time, we don’t seem to get round to that stuff. 

Personally, I can only get anything done if there is a real deadline (making one up for myself never works!). 

I can also get stuff done if I make it a habit. 

Every morning I get up and get dressed in my running gear. I don’t make it a choice. I make it a habit. Once dressed correctly, it’s inevitable that the next step I need to take is to run. After all, it would be crazy to sit there in my running gear and not run. 

Some people think I am very motivated. I’m not sure I agree. I just have lots of habits!

So if you want to get motivation, don’t spend time beating yourself up for what you haven’t done or what you should do. Note how many times the voice in your head says “should” or you say it in conversation with others. 

Give up on what you should do. 

Just start a habit. 

Just start doing something every day no matter what. 

And you may surprise yourself when you look back at the end of the week and realise how much you’ve achieved. That’s motivation that is. 

If you find you are stuck and need some help to focus and move forward, why not drop me an email to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com to see how I can help. 

If you don’t know where you are going…

…how will you know when you get there?

I’ve always resisted goals because I don’t deal well with failure and as a natural pessimist I assumed I would fail. 

But if you are taking a journey, do you work out where you are going or do you just walk out of the door and see where you end up? 

A goal is just a marker for where you are trying to get to. 

Sometimes journeys don’t go to plan. I don’t know about you but I find it very easy to take the wrong action in response to the instructions on my GPS in my car. 

Do I abandon my journey immediately given that I have now failed? No.

A new route is calculated and I follow it. 

Sometimes taking a different path than planned actually works out better

Sometimes your new route is shorter, or prettier. Indeed, I’ve often said that if you want to get to know an area the best thing to do is get lost there. A goal is just a marker for a place we want to get to.

We often learn more when the journey to that marker doesn’t go as planned. 

And sometimes, the journey to that goal takes you to such an interesting place that you decide to change your goal to fit the new place. That’s ok. There are no “Goal-police”. 

In August I set myself a simple goal of getting my book into print so that people who didn’t read books electronically would also have access to it. 

As it happens, the book is still going throught the process. That’s ok. It’s still a place I want to get to, even if it didn’t happen when I wanted it to.

I also have a goal to get into size 12 jeans in time for my 40th birthday in October. So far I can put one of my pairs of jeans on and fasten them (without lying down!). They are still too tight to wear but I think this is a goal I may hit. We’ll see. 

So what goals are you going to set yourself for September and beyond? Let me know. 

And if you need my help to unblock something that is getting in the way of your goals, I can help you with developing the map to get you there so drop me an email to dawn@thinkitchangeit.com and we’ll see what we can do.