She was an endearing old lady that everyone protected when she first entered the jungle as part of the TV show “I’m a Celebrity, Get me out of here”. They found her amusing and quirky. From the outset she clearly marched to the beat of her own drum but, initially, everyone pandered to it. She was older. She was a lady. Lady Colin Campbell was typical of unknowns that end up on the programme.
Before anyone realised what was happening, looking after her turned in to being emotionally manipulated. Up to a point it seemed reasonable to protect an older person who didn’t seem to share the same life experience of everyone else due to her privileged lifestyle.
Then she refused a trial because it triggered issues for her. Seemed reasonable, and yet it resulted in all 12 people going without dinner. And the programme usually makes people exempt from trials if there are medical reasons why they can’t do it.
Again, it seemed unfair but understandable.
And then she won a trial that resulted in her and two fellow campmates going to a bush spa for the night. They got to choose 2 people to wait on them as a chambermaid and servant. She chose Tony and Georgie but Tony refused. He didn’t want to wait on her. Also reasonable.
But Lady C was not used to being refused and her true colours came out. Gone was the subtle manipulation and out came the bullying nastiness. Once the aggressive and abusive behaviour had begun, it didn’t stop. All because someone didn’t do what she wanted. It was targeted at Tony Hadley who dared to refuse her and then Duncan Banatyne who stood up to her along with Tony.
“I don’t need any input from you. You are a hypocritical pretentious a******e. I’ve had enough of you. It’s none of your f*****g business, a******e.”
“You’re a chippy oik with a mouth of diarrhoea. My opinion of you is that you are the lowest of the low, a bore. Let me tell you something, boy, you are of no significance to me. You’re so used to creeps and dollybirds, tarts. You don’t even have a good voice. I don’t want to speak to you,”
‘Not only do you have verbal diarrhoea, you are so full of sh*t that if you ever took an enema you would disappear off the face of the earth without trace.’
‘Be careful who you take on dear baby boy, some people actually have sharper tongues than you, self-important little runt. Desperate for attention and can’t get any.’
“That’s part of the problem, you are desperate for the limelight you vain old goat.’
If it was a male in the camp saying these things and acting in this way, it would not be tolerated. They would be removed quickly. And yet because it’s a woman nothing was done. She continued to bully everyone except a couple of close friends. Even they couldn’t accept her behaviour but by then everyone was too scared to stand up to her.
And this is how it goes with bullies isn’t it? They seem so reasonable at first. They fool those around them. People make excuses for them. We start to question ourselves.
We all live in our own unique reality bubble. When someone lives in such a warped reality, anyone who lives in close proximity to them soon gets drawn in. And once you are in someone else’s reality you lose sight of the fact that a different one exists. This is why people in domestic abuse situations can’t leave – they can only see the world from the perspective of their abuser.
She has now left the jungle on medical grounds and I can go back to enjoying watching a genuinely interesting group of people.
I don’t find it disturbing that people like Lady C exist – we are all different. What I do find disturbing is how easily we all accept that behaviour.
I can help you see a different reality. If you think you are in a controlled situation either with emotional abuse or physical and sexual abuse, think about who you are. Have you always been the way you are now? Or was there a time where you wouldn’t have accepted this? What would you tell a friend? What do your friends say to you?
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