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How to make sure you’re NOT beach body ready

Can you do this for the rest of your life? This thing you are doing to get ready for the summer.

If the answer is no, then at some point, when you stop doing this thing, you will put the weight back on, and some.

What will you do next year – the same thing? Or when you have a wedding to go to. Or some other event.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life either doing this, or feeling guilty for not doing this?

When you’ve lost weight in the past, have you kept it off? Or have you put it all back on? Have you put back on more weight than you’ve lost?

Maybe there is another way.

Maybe there is a permanent way.

A way that involves small, achievable steps to permanent change.

This is not about eating the right things. I’m pretty sure you are an expert on the nutritional content of all the food you eat.

This is not about exercising more. You know what you need to do to lose weight.

This is not about willpower. If we are so  in control of our choices, no one would every struggle with their weight. (Why not take the quiz and find out about your willpower)

This is about your subconscious having a reason for keeping the weight on.

If this was a conscious choice you wouldn’t be reading this post.

If this was a conscious choice you would be happy with how you looked when you put clothes on.

If this was a conscious choice you would look at yourself in the mirror and be happy because it wouldn’t matter what other people thought.

If this was a conscious choice you would get down to the gym and make sure you didn’t get out of breath climbing stairs and going up hills.

This is not about the choices you make. It’s about the subconscious choices that are outside of your control.

If you have a little time, watch this video on how the subconscious controls weight

Maybe it’s time to change your approach. Maybe it’s time to gain the freedom to choose who you want to be – permanently

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Why is it so hard to lose weight? (Video)

Do you struggle with your weight? Have you successfully dieted only to find yourself putting more weight back on when you stop? Do you have friends that seem to be able to eat whatever they want without gaining weight? This video explains it all!

Weight – Your brain decides

In the caveman days, there would be a certain pattern that our life would follow.

Caveman-2-JPEGFirstly there was the time after we had caught a woolly mammoth. The was a period of feast. As well as eating for survival, your mind would guide your body to store fat and nutrients from what you ate. This would mean that during the inevitable periods of famine that followed, you would have plenty of reserves to give you best chance of survival for as long as possible.

Then food would run out. You would have no idea when the next catch would be and so you entered a period of famine. During a period of famine everything had to change around from a mind/body perspective. The focus would be on using the nutrients and energy from anything you consumed, and only tapping into your reserves as a last resort. After all, who was to know how long a period of famine would last.

Whether in feast or famine, your mind/body relationship is programmed to give you the best chance of survival.

Now fast forward to the current day and think about a diet. A diet is a period where you deprive yourself of food – either by quantity or by type of food. To your brain this is famine and it adapts accordingly.

And then you have time off a diet. Because everybody does;  a birthday, a holiday, or just fed up of trying. To your brain this is feast and once more it will adapt accordingly by stocking up your reserves again.

This is why diets work in terms of losing weight, but then you put it back on again – and some. And each time you diet you lose weight, and gain more until it gets to a point where you have to make a superhuman effort to diet. And you probably feel a failure – like you are no good at dieting. But all you are doing is exactly what your mind and body are designed to do.

This ability of the brain to decided how to metabolise what you eat, based on environmental/emotional factors, can also be the reason why some people feel ‘unfairly’ overweight because they don’t eat that much. If your brain has a reason for you to keep the weight on ( e.g a suit to hide behind or having to be likeable as a person if you can’t use your size as an excuse) then no matter what you try, it will ensure the weight doesn’t come off.

I can help. I can get you out of that diet cycle by freeing you up from food or your size having any meaning – leaving you the freedom to choose to be whoever you want to be.

Why not email dawn@thinkitchangeit.com today? You will see changes from the first session in your relationship with food and yourself. And I can usually help you in as little as 3 sessions spread over 6 weeks.

Maybe today is the day…

What do you think of the new Weight Watchers adverts?

I was sitting at my computer doing some work this morning while everyone else in the house slept. I was listening to the radio and a Weight Watchers advert came on. The advert involved a woman talking about the difference losing weight through Weight Watchers had made to her life and she said that it had allowed her to become closer to her daughter.

I did a double take. Really? In what way does losing weight using a restricted diet allow you to become closer to someone? Are we all supposed to feel so bad about ourselves that losing weight allows us to connect to our kids?

I was surprised that they would choose that as a message to promote their product. I was talking about it on Twitter and this comment from a friend made me smile

only reason should be because less fat means you can get your arms further around her when you hug

I know many people resolve to lose weight in a new year especially after the over-indulgence at Christmas. And I know that all the diet companies go all out on their marketing to capitalise on that. But really? do they have to promote this image between being good enough and being overweight? They are as bad as the people who use size zero models for clothes as far as I am concerned.

The way to be closer to your kids is to lead by example.

In this house we don’t talk about appearances, weight, clothes size etc. My daughter is 5 and has a natural healthy relationship with food as all kids do until adults try and influence them. I may not be 100% happy with my size yet but that has not bearing on who I am as a person. I teach my daughter not to judge based on appearance. In fact I spend a lot of time teaching her not to judge at all and to understand we are all different and we all have our stuff.

She has started referring to people as having a fat belly – clearly people at school are using that language. I tell her not to refer to people based on how they look. So she asked “Mummy, what does fat mean?”

“It means different things to different people” I explained “some people might get upset by the word fat and you wouldn’t want to upset someone would you?”

“No” she replies

“So because it might upset someone and you never know it’s better not to ever call anyone fat isn’t it?” I say

My daughter knows I help people for a leaving and says she wants to do that when she grows up. She knows to be kind and to be careful not to upset people.

I try, as much as possible, to lead by example.

In day to day practice we don’t talk about content of food by the labels or nutritional content but instead talk about growing food and treat food. If she’s hungry or it’s mealtime she needs to eat growing food. If she’s eaten enough growing food then it’s ok to have some treat food.

A while back I was driving back from Aviemore and hadn’t planned for lunch. This was bad of me because my daughter needs a wheat free diet so it is not easy to grab something. All I had was chocolates so when daughter complained of being hungry I offered her them “They won’t stop me being hungry” she said. It made me smile because that’s exactly what I wanted her to learn.

We also praise her for knowing when she’s had enough. Kids listen to their bodies. They eat when they are hungry and don’t when they are not. It is adult that enforce rules about when you should eat and how much etc. When my daughter has eaten enough and chooses to leave food because she’s full we tell her “well done you”. And she knows, of course, that unless she’s eaten enough growing food she won’t get treat food.

How we look does not define who we are. Changing how you look may make you feel better in yourself but it also may not. It is unethical, in my opinion, to market a diet by saying it will improve your self esteem.