A year is a long time. Lots can happen that is outside of our control. At the end of the year we can get very reflective. We set ourselves grand goals “This year I will…stop smoking…lose weight…get fit….follow my passion…find love…etc”.
Most people give up on their resolutions within a few months and forget it covers the whole year.
So I tend to approach it slightly differently. I imagine I am at Christmas 2019, looking back on my year, what would I like to say I’ve achieved? I then aim to do something each day that brings me a step closer to that vision of Christmas 2018. If I get blindsided by something, it doesn’t matter, as it’s an aspiration rather than a fixed goal I can succeed or fail at.
**Here was what I wanted to have achieved in 2018 and an update on how it went**
1. Continued to develop my reputation and become the known expert in my field: I want to do a new TED talk using my puppets and with a better title : “We’re all screwed up, and that’s ok”. I also want to get into high schools and do some more practical talks building on my latest book. I also look forward to the results of my Masters Dissertation and hearing the findings quoted on the radio!
UPDATE: I developed a totally new, more personal, version of my talk and delivered it numerous times. It worked really well. I also did a talk to hundreds of high school students and rolled out a new programme of talks and workshops designed just for schools. The results of my Masters are really interesting and are opening doors. I need to contact the newspapers to get a piece done on them.
2. Completed my Masters and made progress towards signing up for a Phd: My Masters is due for completion in August 2018. Before that point I would like to have started the process for applying for a Phd. I can not conceive of life without University now. I love the place. Dundee Uni is awesome and I can’t see myself walking away from it at the end of the year. So I would like to look back at the end of 2018 and know I am making progress towards the Phd and possibly lecturing.
UPDATE: I got my Masters and I no longer plan on doing a Phd. Academic writing is very outdated and it is rare for anyone in the “real world” to get access to the results. I also hate writing that way. I love to make things real and understandable – not complicated and confusing. I am not willing to waste 4+ years doing something I hate. Plan scrapped!
3. Created a stable income: I started a very exciting collaboration at the end of 2017 where I developed a 5 week online programme for breaking the emotion connection that people have with food. It has been piloted with 10 people who have all said they would recommend it to others. There is nothing like this on the market. It will create a secondary channel of income for my business.
UPDATE: Well that collaboration didn’t happen but I recently took that programme back to be owned by just me and I will be launching it in 2019 with the help of a Marketing student. I am really excited about where I can take this and how many people I can reach.
4. Climbed out of a hole: In 2017, I made it through the challenging times by ignoring them and employing distraction techniques. This is not sustainable long term so I hope to resolve some of these issues in 2018 – although I have no idea how!
UPDATE: I did it! I still don’t actually no how. It was more about taking one day at a time. I can’t say I’m back to my happy place quite yet but I’m definitely not teetering on the edge of the precipice either. My word for the year is strong so I think good things are ahead of me
**So what do I want to say when I look back on 2019?**
1. Progress was made on a stable income. The Emergence programme is well established with each month being filled up at least 50% of the year. In my role as Mental Health Mentor I have a good number of students I mentor providing a stable weekly income.
2. I did a new TED talk.
3. I wrote and published my new book “We’re all screwed up”
4. I delivered numerous workshops including more to corporate clients and my new range of workshops for therapists.
So what would you like to say at the end of next year ?