Dealing with birth trauma

Giving birth is a beautiful thing.

It is magical.

It is what a woman’s body is designed to do.

But the realities of giving birth can sometimes not be magical. Or beautiful.

Sometimes giving birth can be painful, humiliating and scary.

Sometimes giving birth can involve a major operation that requires months to recover from physically and years to recover from emotionally.

When you do it through the system (as opposed to a home birth) there is often nothing dignified about being pregnant and having a baby. Suddenly your body is looked at in the most intimate ways, measured, prodded and invaded by total strangers as they track progress of the baby.

During birth in a hospital there are even more strangers around and you lie exposed for everyone to see…and this is supposed to be ok. Because this is the process.

Sometimes things go wrong and everything seems to spiral out of your control. You just want to be with your baby but things start getting in the way of that so to add to the fear there can be the very primal need to connect that is not met. 

And when things go wrong (or even when they go right) even people with the most robust body image can find themselves struggling with feeling out of control and with the lack of dignity.

I have had a number of women come to me over the last year or so who have struggled with this. Struggled because their child is now a few years old and they still can’t look back on the birth without anxiety or fear. They feel guilty for not being able to appreciate the birth or for not being ‘as good as’ someone else who seemed to cope so much better than them.

These women who have been traumatised by their birth experience are often experiencing effects very similar to PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) in their day to day life.

There is hope though.

It is never too late to work on this.

I can help. I can help a woman by taking away the trauma of birth which then frees them up to accept that things happened as they did without the pain and anxiety it used to evoke. I can’t change what happened during birth but I can change the way you feel about it.

It can be quite liberating to be able to look back on the day your child was born without fear and anxiety for the first time.

This is something I can do online via Skype and Face to Face so if you are being held back by a traumatic birth experience why not drop me a mail to and see if I can help (and don’t worry if it’s too hard to talk about, we can do just as much without you telling me the details of what actually happened)

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