...how will you know when you get there?
I've always resisted goals because I don't deal well with failure and as a natural pessimist I assumed I would fail.
But if you are taking a journey, do you work out where you are going or do you just walk out of the door and see where you end up?
A goal is just a marker for where you are trying to get to.
Sometimes journeys don't go to plan.
The other day I was at the cinema with my daughter to see Brave. As you might expect it was filled with kids and parents.
In the row behind us sat an older couple (late 60's - early 70's) with no kids. They walked in hand in hand with smiles on their faces. As the trailers played I heard the lady laugh at all the funny bits that the kids laughed at (and a few more!).
Do you hear voices? I do.
That doesn't make me mad, it is actually fairly normal.
My voices tell me to eat stuff I shouldn't. At their worst they used to tell me I was useless at everything I did. Luckily those voices have been silenced now.
But others still remain.
Once you realise that the environment that defines how our body should work is actually regulated by our brains, you become aware of all the possibilities of an approach such as Cognitive Hypnotherapy that works on fine tuning our subconscious.
You can see on this site how effective that can be for areas such as
But there are other areas where it is increasingly being used.
Have ever been in one of those meetings or parties where there are one or two people that are louder than everyone else?
You know the ones, all you can hear is their voice and their opinions.
Sometimes our heads can be a little bit like that. There is a problem that is making so much noise that not much else gets a look in.
Then one day you get some help.
There are many life stories out there. Some are very harrowing. When I published my book I put it in 3 categories on Amazon:
- Personal Transformation
- Child Abuse
- Self Help
The one I was really interested in it doing well in was Personal Transformation. I read the precis of the top titles in Child Abuse and was horrified.
One of the most common causes of struggles we have in our adult lives comes from feeling unloveable.
Most of what we do as kids is about seeking the love and approval of the responsible adults around us. As a result of this, it is quite common for us to make 'recording errors' for some of the memories that we have.
For example, one day as a child you accidentally knock your mother's favourite mug on the floor.
I have read lots of stuff lately where respinses to people talking about the mind/body connection that are very defensive.
There are some people who seem to take offence when it is suggested that there is a connection between our mind and our body.
If I write that “The mind and body are connected”, it’s unlikely that anyone will disagree.
I read a really good book the other day on creativity (Ignore Everybody and 39 other keys to creativity)
I really enjoyed this book. One line, right at the start of the book, stood out to me
The more original your idea is, the less good advice other people will be able to give you
When I have an idea I test it out on everyone I can to get input. This can be to do with the design of something or an approach I am going to take.
Just by listening to me talking you can find that pain diminishes, or a cold goes away, or you are no longer experiencing the symptoms of Hayfever.
This can be a bit of a tall order to believe can't it? It feels a bit "new age" doesn't it?
But if we accept something like "we get more ill when we are stressed" or even "stress causes illness" then we have accepted that there is a connection between the mind and the body.
Something we think can affect us phsyically.
Society has changed.
Communities don’t physically exist in the way they used to. Communities exist online. The biggest sign of this is in the growth of online dating. I found the following passage on the internet earlier.
According to PARSHIP, Europe’s largest premium online matchmaking service, which uses a rigorous personality profiling test to determine compatibility, the Internet has become a mainstream way to meet someone special: there’s now a 50:50 chance that any single person you know is currently logging on to find love.
You know how when you're in a bad mood, everything just really gets on your wick and makes you feel worse?
You know how when you're in a good mood you bounce around and nothing can touch you?
Moods are like that. They find a way of fuelling themselves.
I always have a problem in June, July and August because in 2007 I gave birth to a baby boy at 26 weeks old. He fought bravely but died after a month in NICU.
A very lovely fellow Cognitive Hypnotherapist called Jill Tonks recently wrote a blog post about me.
In it, she uses me as a case study to show what Cognitive Hypnotherapy can do for you. I am hoping that by reading through this site you'll be able to see what a powerful approach this is.
The other day I was swimming with my daughter at our local gym. As we changed into our costumes we chatted with a lady who looked like she was in her 80’s who was struggling to put on her costume. She made some comment to me about how it was a long time since she last put one on.
I have produced an ebook to share with everyone my personal journey through Cognitive Hypnotherapy. I want people to know that anything is possible and writing a book seemed to be the best way to do that. Click on the picture to go and get a copy
It is for Kindle but if you don't have one you can get a Kindle app for the PC, all Apple devices and Android phones for free so you can still get it.
Exam time is tough time of year for our kids. The stress may be more than anything they have had to deal with before and it tears us apart. I know we are desperate to help them through it.
So here are my tips for things you can do to help them.
1. Get them to listen to my specially developed relaxation track.
Click here to go and fetch my specially recorded relaxation track. This will help get their mind in a more positive place.